Despite all the allegations Chantal levelled against Nina and her alleged drug use, I still wasn’t convinced that she actually had a drug problem and I proposed to Chantal that perhaps Nina had merely indulged a few times with her friends.
Chantal’s retort was that taking the stuff even once was once too many and furthermore she was not going to wait until it got to the severity of Alice’s problem to step in and do something about it.
I asked whether she had spoken to Nina as yet, and Chantal confirmed that there had been several confrontations whereby she had initially inquired about Nina’s drug use and when this was straight out denied; she confronted her with the proof in the form of witnesses.
Nina continued to deny that she had ever touched the stuff and so Chantal told her that she was coming over with a drug test, and once she’d passed it; the matter would be dropped.
Apparently that send Nina over the edge; she not only refused to take the test but told her mother that she was no longer welcome in her house and she began sending her mother really nasty and totally out of character text messages.
This had been going on for several weeks, with Chantal insisting on a test so that Nina could prove her innocence, with Nina refusing to be tested. This is when Chantal starting contacting Nina’s ‘old’ friend – i.e. the friend’s she’s supposedly cut of her life since taking the drugs. And hence the phone call to me on Wednesday night.
On Thursday morning Chantal told Nina that if she did not agree to a drug test that day, she would be contacting the Child Welfare. Nina still declined to pee in a cup and Chantal called me frantically at work.
Whilst I do not want to play a part in a family being ripped apart and children taken from their mother; I also agreed with Chantal in that an intervention would be better now before Nina became a hardcore drug addict and went down the path of Alice before her.
Sadly we all waited too long to intervene in Alice’s case and I know I for one still sit with the guilt of not doing enough until it was too late. And as much as I was not convinced of Nina heading down the same path – prevention is better than cure.
A few hours later I received a call from Chantal to say that Social Services had contacted Nina and that mother and daughter met with a social worker to discuss this case. Nina admitted that she had tried coke three times in her life; refusing to state when the last occurrence was and the social worker said that even three times was a matter for concern, as was the fact that she had known drug users in her house on a regular basis.
The social worker then instructed her to go for a blood test to ascertain whether there was still drugs in her system, which would also give them an indication of when last she used. Again Nina refused, and she stormed out of the meeting.
Chantal was frantic, stating again that this just proved how serious the problem was and even the social worker noted that denial was a strong indication of guilt.
A few hours later Chantal called again to say that suddenly Nina had reappeared at the welfare offices and stated that she was ready to go for her blood test. Which she passed. No traces of any drugs were found in her system.
Now this could mean several things; the drugs had naturally worked out her system; or she had taken something to work them out quicker [a quick Google search provides quite a few options].
Nevertheless, with a clean blood test the social worker was unable to take any action against Nina, however she was cautioned that a file was open and they could call on her to undergo further tests without notice.
Nina still isn’t speaking to her mother, other than continuing a barrage of really nasty messages and not a word has been said to me. So either she doesn’t know my hand in it [which was really just a sound board for her mother] or she is giving me the silent treatment. I guess I’ll know for sure on Wednesday night at cricket.
What I do know, or rather hope is; whatever Nina’s previous drug use was – and only she knows – that this episode was enough to scare her into never snorting another line.
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